Five Top Things for the Father of the Bride to Do
The father of the bride is the poorest-equipped member of the wedding. All women, including your wife and daughter, know more about weddings than you do. The groom just needs to make an appearance at the rehearsal and wedding day reasonably sober and shaved. The best man gets to plan a party ” how hard is that?
The father of the bride on the other hand passes out a boatload of money to pay for almost everything. Therefore, unless he plans on spending all of his money on the wedding, there are a few things that he must know and do.
1. Get involved in the planning. If youre not involved you might as well be wearing a sign that says, Free Money. Avoid trying to take charge of the planning, but do offer your help and suggestions in the areas that do know how to do. A wedding reception is nothing more than a large, expensive party with a lot of rules.
2. Resolve yourself to dealing with crazy women. There is something about weddings that causes all women to go crazy. I am positive that at least five times before the wedding occurs you will be accused of trying to ruin everything. This is one of those times in life that it is generally better (but there are exceptions) to just suck it up. For the most part your wife and daughter will just want to vent about their frustrations. For this you need to learn only two responses, That bitch, and Those bastards. Repeat frequently.
3. Figure out where your money is going. Generally most weddings spend about half the budget on the reception. So far in 2009, weddings have been averaging $16,000 to $19,000 according to the weddingreport.com. That means that receptions are running about $8,000 to $9,500. Theres a lot of room in there to save some money.
4. Be prepared for your wedding toast. If you dont talk a lot in front of crowds, you need to read up on how to make a toast and practice it. Write out the toast well before you give it and practice it standing up (youll be delivering your toast standing). The actual words are only part of the speech. Keep it personal and make eye contact.
5. Learn how to dance. You will be doing one of the first dances with your daughter while everyone watches. Find out what song she wants played and go to a dance studio to learn how to dance to it. Many dance studios offer wedding dance packages. Surprise everyone with a couple of your patented moves.
I also strongly suggest that you plan a post-wedding vacation for just your wife and yourself. It will be needed.
How You Can Save Your Relationship By Creating Intimacy In Relationships
When your marriage hits troubled times, you must believe totally that you can save it, in order to do so. If you do not believe truly that you can save your marriage, then nothing you can do will save it. So the first step if your relationship has hit rocky waters is to believe it can be saved. Intimacy in relationships will be affected by troubled times, and is part of how you save it.
One of the big signs of a marriage that is troubled is a lack of intimacy. For a marriage to be considered successful, with both spouses happy and content, there must be intimacy not limited to the physical but that takes into account the emotional. Ask yourself “does your marriage suffer from a lack of intimacy?”
Are you open and transparent with your spouse? Do you share and include or do you exclude and keep your emotions and emotional needs locked away and try and deal with things on your own? If you exclude your spouse emotionally, then your marriage lacks intimacy and it’s time to inject some and get on the road to save marriage.
Always do your best to share worries and problems with your spouse. Many times people find themselves worried and bothered by a situation. Instead of sharing it with their spouse, the try and deal with it on their own. This is a mistake because they are excluding their partner instead of sharing and including them.
Spouses can easily tell when something is wrong, so if you do shut them out and exclude them, they will quickly feel redundant and therefore hurt by your actions.
Another way to inject intimacy into your marriage so that you can save marriage is to make time for your marriage. In this day and age when a thousand and one things can encroach on your time, not making time for your marriage is a surefire way for a marriage to hit trouble. It’s no fun discovering that when you were busy carving out a career or focusing your time on attending to the kids, that your marriage just shriveled up and died.
Make time for your spouse and your marriage, because this a sure way to improve things. If, every now and then, you take some time off, an afternoon here and there, and use it to have some fun with your spouse. Your spouse will realise that you have changed your schedule because you wanted to include them, and you will see vast improvements in your relationship.
Creating and taking care of intimacy in your marriage so that you can save marriage will take time, and it is something that needs to be done regularly. No marriage survives for long on auto-pilot. A healthy and intimate marriage is one that is cared for, valued and looked after.
Get That Loving Feeling Long Distance
A close loving relationship is nice and can be quite essential to most people. Love is one of the most valuable assets we can have. That is one of the reasons that internet dating has grown over the past two decades. This form of dating provides an opportunity to meet people that live in another state and you can even meet different people from all over the world.
For a lot of us, involvement in a relationship means that we see our partner every day. We enjoy spending time together and love the spontaneity of having our loved one close by. Other couples, and I know some like this, see each other only occasionally. They live independent lives due to busy work and family schedules or simply because they don’t live in the same city.
You might be thinking a long distance relationship is the last thing that you want, but it is important to be open to all possibilities when dating. Perhaps trying something new can lead you to what you have been looking for all your life. While long distance dating can be challenging, it can also be fun.
Long distance dating means that you and your partner will not always be able to attend events that are important to each partner. Spur of the moment dates will likely be a thing of the past. But there is an upside to long distance dating;
1. There is much less emphasis on the physical aspect of the relationship and more on really getting to know the other person. If long term is what you’re after, you might not be doing yourself any favors by sleeping together too soon.
2. You can go out with your friends when you like. In a new relationship you’re usually with your partner most of the time. Not having them around all day, every day, gives you balance while adding a special someone into the mix.
3. You can get away from it all by visiting your sweetie. And if they live someplace that you’ve always wanted to visit you get to have a wonderfully new experience. If they live somewhere that you’ve enjoyed visiting in the past, you’ll be able to see an old favorite through new eyes.
4. You know that list of options you have tucked away in the event you want to move? Now you have a new option to consider.
5. Phone sex! If you’ve never tried it you’re in for a treat. It’s a very exciting way to keep the sparks flying not to mention the fireworks when you do get together.
6. Your partnership stays newer longer. You have less time together so you tend to make the most of it. You can put the trivialities aside and concentrate on the important stuff.
Though it’s probably not your preference, having a long distance love connection can be a wonderful experience; it’s completely up to the two people involved. Take a chance; you never know if this trip into the unknown will turn into something wonderful that will last a lifetime.
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