The Origins And Significance Of The Engagement Ring The Symbolic Importance Of Engagement Rings

October 13, 2009 by Rich Keys · Leave a Comment
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Generally an engagement ring is a symbol of building future together though it has got its own history.

Mary of Burgundy received a diamond ring from Archduke Maximilian of Austria in the year 1477. 24 hours later, the first engagement ring, was on the hand of a married woman and so begins the tradition of proposing marriage with a ring.

As we probe the more distant past, we find that the engagement ring and its meaning dates even farther back than the 1400s. In ancient Rome men gave betrothal (truth) rings and in time also used to engrave their lover’s name in the ring.

Symbolism played a large part int he establishment of this tradition. The Egyptians believed that they could connect their hearts to that of their loved ones by attaching their loved one’s name or symbol to their ring fingers, since the vein in their ring fingers led directly to their hearts.

With the Middle Ages brought about the tradition of using a diamond as a symbol for the blessed union. The diamond is the hardest and strongest mineral on earth, with the ability to resist fire and steel. These facts made it the perfect material to symbolize an unbreakable bond between a married man and woman. Yet, at this time, only the wealthy Europeans and those in a position of royalty could afford to profess their love with such an extravagant gesture.

During the 19th century, diamonds became more widely available to the public. Diamonds from the Kimberly diamond mines in South Africa started to flood the market. Birth stones overtook diamonds in engagement ring popularity due to their rare and therefore more desirable nature. The general public was able to afford diamond engagement rings after the wealthy traded theirs for rings with sapphires, emeralds and rubies with diamond accents.

It was Hollywood’s sense of style and glamour that saw the diamond make a comeback during the 20th century. Marilyn Monroe, the blond bombshell made the diamond very popular with the hit song Diamonds are a Girl’s best friend.

Engagement Rings

When looking at the history, it appears that the diamond is not the essence of the engagement ring. Like every fashion fad, the diamond has gone in and out of style, and then in again, but one common quality among all the versions of the engagement ring stands forever strong. Every girl dreams of being a princess, of being swept off her feet. The presence of a diamond on her finger placed by her prince charming gives her the right to declare her royalty. At this point in history, diamonds are a symbol of glamour and prosperity while the continuity of the ring shape itself symbolizes the relationship.

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Simple But Effective Approaching Girl Tips

October 13, 2009 by Ai Qin Lee · Leave a Comment
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There is something about approaching girl groups that can make a guy sweat in all the wrong places. With girl groups being so intimidating, start simply with one girl at a time. Most of us know that a guy who can’t make a simple approach is going to have a difficult time with every other aspect of girls and dating.

If you never learn how to approach girls you are never going to get past the initial smile and a wave. Once you learn that you are actually capable of making successful approaches you will be that guy that other guys look to for guidance. Confidence can be a very sexy quality, especially when it is obvious from the first greeting.

Approaching girls doesn’t have to be quite distressing. But just like anything else the more you practice the better you’ll get at it. Just because you’re approaching a girl doesn’t mean you have to ask her out. It just means that you want to strike up a conversation or just simply leave her with a simple compliment.

The less invested in the outcome, the easier it is to practice your approach. Starting with girls that are maybe not your ideal woman can help calm you down. What makes the approach so difficult is that we don’t want to blow our shot. If we’re not really all that worked up about how she responds the easier it is to practice.

Being sincere but giving her a compliment is not a bad way to get started. If you stumble through the process, bear in mind that many women find a flustered guy to be attractive. You are practicing in order to build up your confidence. The more confident you are the easier this potentially palm sweaty experience will be.

As you build up your confidence you will find that you’re ready to graduate from compliments and conversation starters to asking a woman out for coffee or a drink on the spot. As time passes and you realize that approaching girls is just an acquired skill, you will be the guy that other guys ask for advice.

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How To Get That Perfect Portrait Photograph

October 13, 2009 by Kyle Stevens · Leave a Comment
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Profiles of people have been frozen in various popular photographs for decades. Portrait photography focuses on presenting a person or a group with all their unique features.

A well done portrait photograph doesn’t follow convention, and shows the subject in a mental state that makes the picture striking. However, portraits of one person or of entire families are also clicked by photographers, and these are usually preserved in family albums.

A perfect close up with a sharp focus on the subject’s face is what gives portrait images that touch of class. This can be attained by making use of a setting in the camera that makes the background slightly hazy and faint so as to place the face more in focus. A bigger aperture used in a camera can give ideal results for this aim. One the other hand, it is better to shoot with a normal aperture if focus on the background is as essential as on the subject, which is usually the case in outdoor photography.

Without ample light to illuminate the face, photographers find it hard to click a good picture. But an impressive portrait photograph is easier to take if certain ground rules are adhered to. A facial profile of a subject sitting by a window looks extraordinary and appealing, particularly when daylight brightens a part of the face. The remaining part of the face can be lighted up by using something reflective like a white piece of sheet or board. However, However, portrait photographs shot in studios under artificial lighting often come out higher quality than those taken outside.

Another important factor that affects a portrait photograph is the comfort level of the subject when he or she presents for the image. Technical sophistication in photography will work only when the person being photographed is comfortable and relaxed, and displays his or her natural self before the camera.

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In Praise Of The Good Mate

October 13, 2009 by Astrid Engels · Leave a Comment
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When a relationship is new, we normally talk about the good things about our partner. Whether you met them internet dating or in some other form, when love is new we can never say enough about the person we care about. We go on so much about them that we drive our closest friends crazy with a little bit too much information.

If would be wonderful if that didn’t change; that we would always say positive things about our partner. But life doesn’t work like that. Sooner or later things change, for better or worse.

Flash forward, a few months or even few years later and boy does it seem that things change drastically. The person we used to rant and rave about with nothing but compliments, now we complain to our friends about constantly always telling them what they do or dont do.

Of course in many relationships, something disappointing will happen. People will hurt you and there are days one or both of you may want to walk out of the relationship, but how about changing it around and making a point of saying the good things as well as the complaints about them?

Life is all about balance. Though it’s important to be able to vent to your partner about your frustrations, it’s just as important that you mention the good things to them. Too much of one or the other won’t create a healthy relationship and causes imbalance. Too much balance in the negative column and the whole relationship will collapse.

Now, I am not saying that you should never say anything bad or good about your mate, but knowing when to share or how much to share is important. Sometimes before sharing it may be necessary to meditate or do some deep thinking about what is bothering you.

This will help you in two ways. It will allow you to gain some insight into the situation before talking to anyone. If you’ve given it plenty of thought and you’re still confused or upset, then you need to talk to someone. Go with your instincts on this one.

When this happens, talk about the situation but balance it with positive information as well as complaints about your mate. Giving both sides helps the person listening not just take your side. Sometimes the person listening will be able to find the positive and give you a way to praise your mate. Remember, there was something special about them that made you date them in the first place. Keeping this in mind will help you be able to approach what is going on with an open mind.

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Starting Out With Online Dating And Growing A Relationship

October 13, 2009 by Leslie Hayden · Leave a Comment
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Online dating can be fun, but do not neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Computer Security

Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use): a free firewall from ZoneAlarm and a free anti-virus program from AVG anti-virus.

Personal Security

You need to take care that you choose safe dating sites. I recommend you use the ones you see advertised on TV. The reason is that if the company is making enough money to spend millions advertising on TV, they must be doing something right. Also, these companies vet both advertisers and users who seek only financial gain from using their dating service. You can also ask your friends what online dating service they used to find their spouses.

Remember, safety first. Protect your computer and yourself with the right tools and knowledge and you will have a fun experience.

With safety covered, I will now talk about how to build an online relationship. Online relationships need tending to if you want them to grow just like relationships offline.

1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each others time with respect. If it is lacking, it might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So do not rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Do not share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4. Share both online and offline experiences. Online – send digital cards, website links, your favorite music and videos, pics of your pet, etc. Offline – send cards, postcards, and pics from your local area like a pic of your house, your car, the beautiful park across the street, etc.

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

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