To Be a Successful Wedding Planner You Must Have These Four Traits
Most people want a wedding planner career because they coordinated their own wedding or friends and realized they had a flare and passion for helping others’ bring their “Big Day” dreams to life. They loved the tiny details and executing the magnificent experience. Do you dream of becoming a high-profile elite wedding planner too, but have no idea how to make this magic happen?
As the President of Circle City Planners, my team and I have planned over 200 events from beginning to end. But back in 2001, I had that exact same desire as all new wedding planners have-to be elite. My name is Tonya Shadoan and today I balance my life while having 10-15 weddings in my head. I have to create a truly unique experience for each of my clients. Do you have the desire to be a great wedding planner, too?
Nowadays, there are many sites that promise they can make you a wedding coordinator by giving you a stack of course material. I am here to tell you, you don’t have to pay thousands of dollars to become a legitimate wedding planner. Don’t mistake me, you do need thorough training before you can successfully plan someone’s wedding. But there is way more to it than a slip of paper to become a great wedding planner.
To be a highly successful wedding planner-there are four main characteristics you must possess.
Wedding Planner Traits
Image: No matter how shallow it sounds, it’s the hard truth. We all judge someone by their looks. You’ve heard the saying “first impressions are everything” Brides do the same thing when they are considering you to take over planning the biggest day of their lives. The wedding planner brings a strong image to most. Do you match this image? Are there things you can improve so you can be the ideal fairy godmother (or sister!)?
Professionalism:
You gain the respect and trust of your clients and your peers by how well you handle yourself. To protect your reputation you must keep a calm demeanor and professional image at all times. This includes when you are speaking with the clerk at the grocery store, having a conference with your child’s teacher and even when you’re out for a girls-night-out. Others will take note of your grace and they will spread your errors. Just remember, you never know when you are staring your next client in the face.
Organized:
With so many weddings in your head, you must have a sound organizational system and stick with it. Every bride wants to be reassured she is in good hands and every bride deserves to be treated special. You can not achieve this if you’re unorganized. Trying to remember all the little details a client has shared with you should will cause stress if you don’t document them in a clearly designed space. Implementing a system and sticking with it will put your mind and your client’s mind at rest.
Passionate:
I’m in the FUN Business. I have a flexible schedule that allows me to go to lunch with my husband and shop when I feel like it. However, I always put in tons of work during non-traditional business hours too. Even when there is no wedding to plan, I am building my business. I network everyday. Saturdays are days that I rarely have off because I am either at a wedding or taking care of administrative needs. But it is never “work”, it’s what I love to do! Everyday brings me another opportunity to step up my game, to develop my business and I seize these opportunities. You will have to have that same spirit, passion and commitment when you start and maintain your own wedding planner company.
So I have given you the four basic skills all wedding planners need to possess. Now is the time for you to do some character analysis. Do you have these traits naturally or will you need to develop them while learning the wedding planner industry?
Visit the Education Section to learn how Tonya Shadoan helps develop people-just like you- into elite wedding planners.
Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back!
You are probably feeling pretty sad and lonely right now if you have recently broken up with your boyfriend.
There is nothing more painful than when you have just broken up with your man, and you are left feeling rejected, sad and worried that if you don’t get him back soon, someone else will get him instead.
The great news is that you CAN get your ex boyfriend back, as long as you follow the correct step-by-step methods.
FACT: did you know that the color of the clothing you wear can make all the difference in whether or not you are able to get your ex boyfriend back?
And did you know that the way you speak will help you get your ex boyfriend back?
There are so many tricks and tips you can use to get him back, and you need to be aware of the ones that will work the best for you, in your situation.
Once you have looked carefully at your relationship and its demise, you must consider two questions:
1. Am I able to forgive my ex boyfriend and move forward?
2. Do I really still want to get my ex boyfriend back?
If the answer to both questions is yes, then you are ready to get started!
The first thing you must do is research on how to get your ex boyfriend back. Some amazing resources are available on the web, where you will find methods that have successfully worked for other couples and helped them to reunite. Find the tips that are the best fit for your situation.
You need to start by taking a good break from your ex. Next, you formulate your plan of action!
Do not phone, email or even text him. You are afraid that in the meantime he will start dating again, right? In your time apart, you must use the best tricks and tips on the internet to get your ex boyfriend back and keep him forever!
So get reading! Read relationship guides written by top relationship gurus, and remember the old adage: if you love it, set it free. If it comes back, it is yours forever.
If you are asking yourself: “What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?”, you need to do is get yourself ready! Get FREE advice from expert relationship counselors! You have to act quickly and act decisively! Learn the tricks and tips that experts suggest to get your ex boyfriend back back quickly and forever!
Enjoy the Process of Dating
When you look at the process of dating, do you see it as a very lonely and long road, almost as a necessary evil? It’s true that some enjoy this process, but others just want to get it over with and to settle down with somebody for companionship. Whichever way you look at it, you should try and live in the moment and not be too far ahead of yourself.
There’s no point in going out and trying to find a partner until you have looked inwardly and analyzed your situation completely. It is not fair to bring baggage from a previous relationship to a new one, nor is it okay if your finances are generally in a mess and you don’t know where you are going in life. Is your education complete and your career path clear?
Don’t be ready to open the door and bring a guy into your life if you are not really sure where you are, yourself. Have a good look at your lifestyle and understand that you are what you associate with. By looking for a long-term companion through a process of dating you are essentially expecting somebody to become a part of who you are, so be careful.
You can look at the process of dating in so many different ways. You might choose to frequent bars and clubs in a proactive effort or you might see if your friends will introduce you to guys at different social venues. Are you going to make a big effort to go out and look or just wait and see what happens? As another alternative you might choose to surf online dating sites.
A fresh start may be required if you have tried and failed with those traditional resources. Making this kind of start and turning over a new leaf could be just what your process of dating requires. Above all else, never try and force the situation to work for you.
Being single is very different to being in a relationship, that is for sure. For some, they cannot imagine being alone and need companionship at all times, but others understand that being single has its own options and opportunities in your life.
We’re only here for a limited period of time and we all need to realize this is and not live our lives in such a hectic manner. Sometimes we forget that the objective is to be as happy as you can through life and not to put too much pressure on any particular outcome. Moderation in your thoughts and processes is important in the process of dating — just trust and see what happens.
In life, above all never be too demanding and never be too keen to jump in without learning about your prospective date. The process of dating takes time and there is no shortcut. You may have learned already that unless you get to know the person very well, a long-term association is less likely.
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50 Ways To Get Over A Broken Relationship
This is the third series on ‘Love Relationships’ and the aim is to look at ways in which we can resolve or get over broken relationships. A broken relationship is simply an end to a relationship based on love, trust, affection, friendship etc. It can happen to anyone, at any age with/without warning. It is not only tagged to spouses, marriages or engagements but also affects friends, families, work colleagues….. This post will briefly address how it occurs and suggest 50 Ways To Get Over A Broken Relationship.
The following are causes of broken relationships: Distance: This occurs when friends lose contact with each other and go in separate directions e.g. relocating to another country, town or city, going to different schools/colleges, jobs etc. A change in circumstances and seasons Lack of trust and disrespect. Lying and cheating. Break in communication. Personal Issues. Pride.
It’s important to note that are many other causes of broken relationships, but the post will be limited to this list. In no particular order, here are 50 Ways To Get Over A Broken Relationship.
1. Time: It’s important you give yourself enough time to heal, get over the hurt, gain confidence and take off from where your life paused temporarily. 2. Find out who you really are, what your temperaments, likes or dislikes are. Be yourself; be authentic, be bold, be loving, be beautiful. 3. Don’t be hard on yourself: There is always a tendency for you to heap the causes of the strain in the relationship on yourself. Cut yourself some slack and be encouraged by things that give you meaning. 4. Accept past events, the changes/challenges associated with it. As painful as it is, the underlying factor is to build a level of tolerance & resistance to these situations.
5. Examine yourself: Could you be the one who has the problem? Is your character, behavior, or attitude questionable? Are you argumentative, bossy, overbearing? It may be worthwhile examining yourself inwardly. 6. Empower yourself by listening to, reading and watching positive media that will contribute to uplifting your spirits and strengthening you. 7. Avoid being alone: Spend a lot of time with other friends, family, colleagues….. They could serve as listening ears and provide all sorts of encouragement. 8. Get some rest. It would recharge your energy levels and ensure you put things in perspective. 9. Let go of your emotions constructively. Cry if it will make you feel better, take long walks. Don’t be embarrassed at it. Whatever you do, make sure it’s constructive and makes you feel better. 10. Endeavour to resolve every confrontation or argument that may stem from past relationships.
11. Rebuild your self esteem and self confidence. 12. Improve your physical appearance, dress sense and total physical outlook. Dress smartly, casually, elegantly….(I don’t subscribe to a provocative dress sense). It helps to boost your level of confidence. 13. Create a positive attitude around you and think positively about who you are. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. 14. Be careful of being taken for granted by anyone. It’s important you guard your self/heart to avoid being hurt again. There could be people (acquaintances, friends, ex’s (YES!!!), colleagues…) wanting to take advantage of your current situation for their own selfish gains or pleasure. 15. Apologize: even if you don’t feel you’re directly at fault. It is a wonderful healing process giving you peace of mind, bringing comfort and relief to both parties concerned. 16. Forgive: Forgive yourself. Don’t feel stupid or worthless at the current situation. Learn to forgive the other parties involved. Set them free!!! 17. Be Optimistic: Show a bit of optimism in your daily living, trying as much as possible to put the past behind you. 18. Don’t cultivate the habit of eating too much in order to drive away painful memories or give you comfort.
19. Don’t turn to alcohol or drugs as a quick route to escape from the hurt or drown your sorrows. The pain will still be there in the morning along with a hangover! 20. Know what you want from a new relationship or friendship. 21. Stop living in self denial. There would be fond memories of the past but you’ve got to MOVE ON!!!!! 22. Stop over analyzing several issues, actions, movements, behaviors that occurred in the past. 23. Watch what you say: Be careful not to say or get into too many conversations that will bring up the past events relating to betrayal and dishonesty. 24. Condition your thoughts: Most times, you can’t face challenges because you are drowned in negative thoughts. If you approach the past with pessimism, there is a possibility of making wrong decisions arriving at erroneous judgements. 25. Be secured: Be secured in who, what and whom you are. Learn to deal with all your insecurities. 26. Deal with all forms guilt. 27. Always think of what is best for you as you move on to conquering the hurts of the relationship.
28. Be careful not to rush into developing new relationships either by forming new friendships or dating quickly. 29. Don’t play the blame game; finding faults or apportioning blames to various people, friends, families, ex’s……. 30. Keep your distance. It gives you enough time to pull your thoughts together. 31. Think Of The Future: Let your thoughts of the future be memorable, motivating and encouraging. Work towards the picture you’ve set for yourself. 32. Face your fears knowing, it only becomes a problem, when you can’t stand up to the pressures that come your way. 33. Learn to communicate your intentions, messages, mission, purpose etc.properly. 34. Start dating and making new friends again. This contradicts what was mentioned above. The tip in context; you shouldn’t deprive yourself of the benefits of seeing someone else at the appropriate time. 35. Learn to love again remembering not everyone will act like your ex, friend, colleague etc. 36. Don’t act desperate giving in to anyone who just comes your way or appears to be nice. 37. Take one day a step at a time making sure each day is a filled with various accomplishments.
38. Stop worrying and making all kinds of unnecessary assumptions. It reduces your level of anxiety. 39. Get a new focus. 40. Spoil yourself: Get a massage. Pamper yourself in the bath with oils, soothing music and skin moisturizers. 41. Celebrate Your Progress: Be happy when you make progress/changes in any sphere of your life using it as a stimulus to building new relationships. 42. Be Patient: Being patient allows you handle various situations with confidence and assurance knowing a solution definitely exists in any circumstance. 43. Spend money wisely: There is a tendency to spend carelessly to get rid of the pain experienced such as going for expensive holidays, purchasing unnecessary or unwanted items etc. The relief is temporary but you would be left repaying the debts when you come back to your senses. 44. Learn from the experience: The sole purpose of every experience is to make you a better person who can confidently face whatever life has to offer. 45. Improve yourself at the slightest opportunity you have. Your capacity to build new relationships will depend on your personal drive to take each opportunity as stepping stones.
46. Discuss your fears: Through building positive relationships, learn to share your fears with friends and family. It could boost your self esteem through learning from the experiences of others. 47. Seek Profession Help: Where/When necessary, the services of a counsellor, psychotherapist, may be employed. 48. Start out a new hobby. Try out things you’ve never done before. It will help fill those lonely times. 49. Exercise: It is important you stay in good shape by exercising as often as you can. Apart from the healthy benefits, a lot of people feel unattractive, insecure and less confident when they are out of shape. 50. Set Goals: Be determined to come out of the broken relationship strong with new ideals, strength and character.
I look forward to your suggestions and comments.
Ayo Olaniyan is a certified Unitive Life Coach and Counsellor. He is a member of the EMCC, an accredited professional counsellor with the Counselling Society.You can go to the website Discovering Purpose to read or subscribe to personal development articles. Creating a purpose driven life through personal development
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