Getting Over Toxic Relationships
When it comes to a toxic relationship, your mind might have an angel on one side telling you to stay away from your ex, while that little devil on the other side wants to keep a close watch on his whereabouts. Ultimately, you know what the right choice is. Toxic relationships are not just bad, but in some instances can be poisonous. Dealing with them and moving on can be very difficult and even heartwrenching, but it really can be done.
Sure, you can opt for deprecating humor and visit www.mybreakupspace.com (think take-off on MySpace) or google “how to get revenge” all day long. Did you know you can even get your very own free blog space to rant and rave about what a jerk he is at www.mybreakupblog.com? Yeah, maybe if you’re feeling really emotional one day, the break up blog is a good way to vent. But let’s face reality these tactics are just temporary stress toys to bite down on while you deal with your feelings. So what should you do?
Go for a temporary fix to get those tears out. Get lost in a movie! You know that when you are riding that emotional roller coaster, just the sight of two baby elephants snuggling will be enough to send you into a crying tizzy, so get it out on something other than your relationship. Have your own afternoon sob-fest and watch three in a row with a big bucket of popcorn and a box of Kleenex. But seriously, please don’t pick a love story.
Under no circumstances should you call him. Remember, this relationship was toxic. As much as you may yearn to hear his voice, think of the phone as a transmitter for those poisonous relationship toxins to seep back into your system. The longer you can go without dialing him up or seeing him face-to-face, the stronger you will grow.
Have a list of the good and the bad. Making a list helps you put the true nature of your relationship with your boyfriend into a more realistic standpoint. When you can actually point out all those bad and crazy things he did to you, you’ll realize that it’s far more reasonable to end your relationship and move on with your life without him. Score for the other half of your heart that tells you to stay away from your ex.
Find a sports or any activity for your pent-up energy. Let the stress off your body and do something that’s meaningful for you. Play tennis, learn photography, etc. These activities will make your mind wander about something else and also will let the creativity out in you. Once you’ve done it, you’ll be able to have a much clearer mind and better point of view.
Talk it out. Good friends or family members who care about you are almost always willing to lend an ear, even if you just want to babble to them about what the relationship used to be like. Note: You may want to rotate listeners if you talk a lot, however, to avoid overkill!
Breakup happen to all of us, but they are optional. If you think you can patch the things up with your boyfriend then do something to work the relationship out. Compromise, but do not sell yourself short. Remember, it’s normal to feel bad, annoyed, and even angry when ending toxic relationships… but beating yourself up is too much. If you feel that it won’t really work out, then move on and deal with spending your life without your ex. You can always keep on dating, after all.
Candice Garcia shares the right way in ending toxic relationships. You can find more articles on her relationship blog at http://getexbackmagic.com.
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